PAWS FOR REFLECTION

As I sit down to share my thoughts, I am filled with a mix of gratitude and vulnerability. Many of you may not know that I am currently battling bladder cancer while board and training a service dog prospect for another deserving individual. This journey has certainly brought both challenges and lessons that I feel compelled to share with you all because I know many will be able to relate.

Training a service dog is a profound commitment—one that requires patience, consistency, and love. But what happens when life throws us curveballs? As a disabled trainer and handler myself, I’ve experienced firsthand the deep struggles that come with health challenges. There are days when I can barely get out of bed, much less engage in the rigorous training routines I had planned. And during these times, it’s easy to fall into the trap of guilt, feeling like I’m letting my dog down or failing in my role or even worse, get canceled on the internet.

I want to remind everyone that training your own service dog is not a race. It is a journey, one that can take unexpected turns along the way. Whether it takes you two years or three, it doesn’t diminish the bond you are building with your dog. Your timeline is uniquely yours, shaped by your circumstances and needs.

In moments of struggle, I have learned the importance of setting realistic goals. When I find myself unable to accomplish what I once envisioned, I take a step back and reassess. Sometimes, it’s as simple as jotting down a new goal on my calendar. On days when even a short walk feels impossible, I remind myself that training can occur in small ways. You can work on commands while sitting in a chair or incorporate brief training sessions into your daily routine. Every little effort counts, and every moment spent together strengthens the connection between you and your dog.

Now, by incorporating short training sessions on challenging days, it can be beneficial for both you and your dog in several ways:

1. Boosts Mood: Engaging in training can create a sense of accomplishment and purpose, which can elevate your mood. Celebrating small successes, whether it’s your dog following a command or just enjoying the bonding time, can spark joy even on tough days.

2. Strengthens Bonding: Training sessions provide dedicated time to connect with your dog. This shared focus and interaction can enhance your relationship, making both of you feel more secure and happy.

3. Mental Stimulation for Your Dog: Short training sessions offer mental exercise for your dog, which can help reduce boredom and prevent unwanted behaviors. A mentally stimulated dog is often calmer and more focused, making the day easier for both of you.

4. Establishes Routine: Keeping a routine, even when it’s short, can provide structure to your day. This can be comforting and create a sense of normalcy, which is beneficial for both your mental health and your dog’s behavior.

5. Reduces Stress: Both training and spending time with your dog can lower stress levels. The act of focusing on commands, rewards, and positive reinforcement helps redirect attention away from negative feelings and creates a positive environment.

6. Encourages Positive Behavior: Regular training reinforces good habits and behaviors in your dog. On days when you feel overwhelmed, consistent short sessions can help maintain discipline without requiring extensive energy or effort.

7. Physical Exercise: Even brief training can involve some movement, helping you and your dog to shake off restlessness. Light physical activity releases endorphins that can help improve your mood.

8. Promotes Mindfulness: Training encourages you to be present in the moment, which can be a form of mindfulness. This focus can distract you from worries and help ground you in the here and now.

Overall, even on the toughest days, short training sessions can create meaningful interactions, improve behavior, and contribute to a more positive atmosphere for both you and your dog.

Now, as I’ve started to navigate my battle with cancer, I often grapple with feelings of imposter syndrome and fear of failure. But now I am learning that it's okay to take breaks and prioritize my health. It’s vital to recognize that training may ebb and flow, especially during tough periods. We all deserve grace in our journeys. Rather than comparing myself to others, I choose to focus on progress—no matter how small.

To all my fellow owner trainers who may be facing similar struggles, remember this: You are not alone. There is a community of support surrounding you, and we understand the unique challenges that come with training a service dog while managing health issues. As long as you remain patient, keep your expectations realistic, and stay positive, you and your dog will emerge as a wonderful team.

So, let’s celebrate every step forward, regardless of how long it takes. Together, we can lift each other up and continue to grow alongside our incredible canine companions.

Please share with us your journey and experiences and how you managed to get through those tough days!

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